How to Live Like a Royal Every Day: Elegant Daily Habits & Standards That Transform Your Life

You are not a peasant. You might act like one for survival sometimes, but it does not mean your soul is fated for an average life. Respect does not care about what class you come from.

I promise you this is going to improve every facet of your being if you act on all of these standards. None of these habits cost money and will take you further than a formal education. 

Just because you were born into a title and were handed down riches does not mean you are inclined to immediately act like a spoiled prat. The Royals are forced to be role models because they represent an ancient institution.

Life becomes more interesting when you live beyond yourself and be respectful of everyone around you – especially including yourself. 

Always be polite with a smile.

There is only one smile you need: your warm, genuine smile. This is the type where your eyes are squinting with friendliness in your spirit. I specifically say this, because in other countries and cultures, there are different smiles you are technically supposed to put on in different situations, but I find this exhausting when you can simply be authentic without stepping on toes. One smile is all you need.

A smile is so disarming and can make an intimidating character melt. Next thing you know, you are friends getting coffee together talking about everything and nothing. 

Being polite is simply being kind. This is 100% free. I said kind, not nice. What is the difference? Kind is considerate in nature. Nice is being agreeable. It is not necessary to agree with everyone, because this is not going to be the case. 

You can be understanding of someone else’s opinions and disagree with all due respect. Nobody will ever agree with you all of the time. It is kind to take notice and regard the other person by acknowledging how you are different but focusing on your similarities to bring you together. 

Replacing the word ‘kindness’ with consideration makes people feel understood and more comfortable. Relatable as if you are both on the same page. No matter what, you are kind, making everyone feel welcome and comfortable. 

You are always inviting and it also strips away the potential for awkwardness or cringe. This diplomacy is a soft skill that is overlooked and returned tenfold, because it is forgotten in a lot of cases. 

For example, those who are insolent to waitstaff are torn to shreds on social media everyday. We want to eliminate that even being a possibility in our mind.

Regulate your emotions.

This is so sexy and attractive to everyone. 

At certain events where there are a lot of people, there might be someone who needs a little bit more attention than others. Or a particular someone throws a fit when not getting what they want. In other instances, it might materialise as someone who is asking a shockingly rude question that oversteps boundaries. 

The kind thing to do would be to keep a positive look on your face (if you are not already smiling) and ignore them. Ignore rudeness. Keep calm and carry on. 

Civilians in a crowd might say obscene things to HM King Charles, but he does not rush back to give the individual a piece of his mind. He simply carries on with his Royal duties, because he has a thousand better things to do.

I see so many videos of Prince William being questioned about controversies that have not much to do with him. It is not only disrespectful, but is one of those moments where you can demonstrate your true character by not having a reaction. Sometimes it is better to zugzwang and say nothing.

If you are in a fight with someone you care about, come back to the situation with a clear head when you have calmed down and then try to solve it. 

My sweetheart has this fabulous thing he does when we have a disagreement. He does not insult the situation and says, ‘I’m not even going to say anything bad, because that’s not who I am.’ My respect for him grew tremendously that day. I have always put this hat on in my mind, but seeing it exercise externally in real time was an eye opener, and I felt immensely proud to know him. 

When I was in finishing school, we were taught the 6 second rule. Take 6 seconds to yourself to breathe and think of something polite to say. You set a quiet boundary with others to let your thoughts be known, but also do not let yourself think of negative thoughts that could turn into words, into actions, into consequences.

Dress elegantly and appropriately.

And impeccably, I might add. When the occasion is not about you, meaning it is not your party, your event, or a celebration you are hosting, respect the dress code. If there is none, look to Pinterest or Google for the most appropriate attire. You will never feel out of place when you are covered and look like you run the place.

At certain times in my life – whether it was a professional position or social role – I found myself standing out in a positive manner simply by covering up, wearing pressed and clean clothes, and acting as a guest instead of the headlining star of a show. 

Royal Tip: To keep their modesty, women of title from Duchesses to Princesses have weights sewn into the hem of their skirts. This keeps from Marilyn Monroe moments happening when boarding an aircraft or a gust of wind in public. 

A lot of people who are not used to formal invites might have a tendency to think dressing up is about showing out with loud cuts and statement designs. It is more about giving respect to the host and setting a precedent for the occasion.

I was at a party where invitees were encouraged to wear dresses that covered your shoulders and a stunning statement hat. People who did not wear a hat really stood out. In really formal events, you would not be let in. The same goes for men entering certain establishments without dress shoes or a coat, wearing white at weddings, wearing blue at a purple party, the list goes on. 

When the occasion is not about you, do not make it about you. It is not about fitting in, but showing respect for the energy that space provides. Specific places and occasions call for specific moods and with that comes your presentation. 

Carry yourself with grace. 

This involves absolutely everybody. Nobody is safe when it comes to poise. Everyone needs this at all times in their life. Especially when drunk.

Posture and comportment are essential when carrying an aura that radiates elegance. You can also interchange the word elegance with kindness or consideration. (We really like those words around here.) It is almost like that was the point.

You do not have to stand or sit military-arched straight, but comfortable yoga straight. It prevents back and neck pain whilst making you look super in shape when wearing your clothes. Instead of letting your clothes wear you.

Sitting with your legs closed is enforceable just as much for gentlemen. Close your legs. No matter where or who you are – nobody wants to see your crotch even if you are donning trousers. When bending down to pick something up, bend your knees. 

Have you noticed that the more dressed up you are you act a certain way? This is by design.

Educate yourself.

Not a lot of us plebeians know much about our family history unless we make a conscious effort. However, the Royal Family literally gets to study their genealogy when in history or political classes. They learn about the daily life of their great great great great grandfather who fought wars and stood as a symbol for the kingdom. 

It is important to get to know the history of our heritage, understand the Classics of all of the world as much as we can, and realise we are only a small spec in this world who honour those who walked before us. 

Why is this necessary? Not everyone is lucky enough to cross paths with every citizen of this earth. But it is important to be prepared when the time comes. I live in the metropolis of Los Angeles and it is a wonderful mixed community that makes me smile everyday. 

Heck, I am mixed. I have a better understanding of those around me, because I am not the only hot shot to exist. Having a new perspective makes us appreciate what we have and even borrow the good things we treasure from different ways of life. 

On the news was Prince William giving a speech in fluent French. My pronunciation is nowhere near perfect, however watching him try with all his heart moved me. I was sincerely touched, because I once was in a relationship with someone who never put in effort to understand or speak my language. He made it a point that my culture was inferior, therefore not worth putting in the effort. We obviously broke up.

One could see Prince William studied the language previously and read the speech very well. I clapped at home watching it and thought about how much thought goes into everything he did that day in one engagement. 

When the late Her Majesty was alive, I heard a statistic that the late Queen Elizabeth II had 367 engagements a year. That meant showing up at least a couple of times a day to different parts of the world, convening with various leaders of civilisations seas away. The energy of this woman was astounding. 

Remember everyone’s names.

Everyone is special. Remind them of that. Instead of calling someone babe, sweetheart, or honey, I want to remind them how special their name is. How beautiful they are and how much I value them by saying their natural name. 

Their parents took the time to give them their name, and sometimes they have a world of meaning in such few letters. 

Someone I know was visited by Prince Harry when they were in the RAF. Apparently, he was surrounded by tons of security guards who had arms that looked like they came from another planet (super advanced stuff) that could not be replicated in Hollywood movies, because writers have never held a gun before. 

But the other thing he took note of was the fact that Prince Harry shook hands with almost hundreds of people and knew every single person’s name. On top of that, he knew details about them and sent regards if their infant daughter was in the hospital. 

He studied and was briefed beforehand and learnt about every soul with his heart. Even if it was one simple detail, those individuals he shook hands with will remember that forever and how they felt extraordinarily special. 

Never complain, criticise, or correct.

I love the expression 

Never take criticism from those you do not respect.

I wholeheartedly agree. The person giving you money advice who is bad with money and telling you you are horrible for making one small mistake is someone to promptly write off. 

To take it a step further, never criticise anyone. It is a different story if the person who is inflicted with said criticism is your born offspring. However, people who are not in your bloodline born directly from your siring are not to be reckoned with when it comes to advice.

We never know someone’s full situation and have no business making remarks on half a story we are not familiar with. Sometimes it is okay to listen and not add our two cents. Showing support can be asking, ‘How can I help?’ It does not have to be out loud, but reading the room helps – which is essentially the entire basis of good etiquette.

Complaining is another one that we could go on and on about. There are so many instances when I heard someone complaining about a neighbour whilst someone in the same friend group was suffering in silence, because they recently lost a family member in a years-long battle with a disease. Life could always be worse, so let us stick to noting the positive or making light of our own misfortunes.

Correcting simply makes others uncomfortable. There are indirect and friendly ways to do it by carrying on the conversation kindly and warmly. We always want to keep friends and acquaintances, because you never know who could use some positive energy. 

Outright correcting people is a no-no and shaming them in front of others, especially in public is painful to watch.

Keep your traditions alive.

Honour your parents and heritage. This does not only mean your parents, but your fathers, their fathers, and so on.

If your father was a drunk who never cared about your family, you do not have to take this tradition with you. It can be the practical traits you benefit from and grow with. Knowing where you came from can tell you where you are going or want to avoid visiting.

Keeping your good practices and attributes alive are noble. Learning the language of your family is noble. Knowing how to cook the meals your grandmother made you will make a world of difference in carrying on her legacy. There are so many prepossessing ways to honour these parts of you.

Date with intention.

Preferably for marriage. I say for marriage, because it gets you to think of the grown up long term goals that make you be your best self and show up consistently. Beautiful children that remind you of your love and a sanctuary of home to live in as a family are such affairs to look forward to. 

The late Her Majesty (she is still one of my favourite role models as she saw and did everything and was the longest reigning monarch during my lifetime) made a point for the Royal Family to date at least five years before proposing marriage. 

This was because of the scandal of our now King and his divorce. Not to mention other divorces in the Royal Family that unnecessarily severed visible ties – at least in the media. 

Want to be in control of your legacy? Be careful who you marry. Take the time to get to know someone and practise showing up for someone else. Larry Silver said the most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. They will make or break you and your successes or failures. 

Princess Kate Middleton is one of my heroines because of this. Being patient even though you already know you are going to marry someone is so hard to do. But she is the right fit for the job of being a wonderful, loyal wife who shows up even when she is not feeling her best. 

We all want to be as strong as HRH Katherine.

Go on amazing adventures.

The Royals are famous for travelling the world, doing the 7 marathons in 7 days on 7 continents, and climbing Everest. I highly recommend finding your adventure.

There are various types of adventurers I have personally come across and these are the main 3 I have noticed. If there are more that I missed, please comment below.

The once adventurer

This person lives their entire life in a bubble and never leaves except for once in their life when they go to another country and come back a changed person. They talk about this place nonstop when it comes up and it frequents their mind as if they were Shackleton.

The goes on adventures all the time adventurer

They constantly plan trips and have so much sightseeing that your feet bleed when you are touring with them. You never feel like you can fully catch up with them, because they are nonstop on a flight.

The curated adventurer

The curated or careful traveller is someone who meticulously plans grand trips and only does them once in a while, but they have a great quality of seeing the world at a steady pace. Their goal is usually to enjoy themselves, or go to an event – say, a destination wedding – and then enjoy themselves.

Use your best things.

A lot of my wishlist items or everyday essentials are Royal Warranted, because that means the items typically last centuries. That is how well made they are and I even get compliments all the time when using them.

This counts for everything in my bag when I am out to my tablescapes. I love romanticising my everyday by creating rituals with these items. For example, my tea set, silverware, and/or napkins are always presented with care and love when I am setting the table. 

My household and guests who use them enjoy themselves too, understanding the dignity and weight they carry in my life. I can see they feel like Royals when they are with me, because I will always roll out the red carpet for myself and this is how I really live. Nothing is affectation. Use your nice things.I have a whole post on this alone. 

From this habit, I am reminded of a story of someone I know who visited Buckingham Palace. There was a tall and large marvellously made table with striking wood grains that was polished with vigilance. On it were about 100 Purdey bespoke guns. For those of you who are not familiar, Purdey makes bespoke arms, especially gorgeous rifles and can go over $100,000 each. 

High quality made things are hard to scratch in the first place, so do not be afraid to use your well made items without being too precious. Life is too short to not appreciate what you worked hard for. 

Spend time with those you respect.

I used to torture myself thinking I had to only hang out with people I knew a long time who were actually dragging me down and putting negative thoughts and habits into my head. Listening to their constant put-downs and condescension were only hurting me in the long run. The longer you stay, the harder the damage is to undo. 

Spend time with those who value their thoughts as much as you do. You will have a pure mind, not be afraid to share ideas, and become closer with someone you respect. This is so simple, yet I find others making the same mistakes everyday with people they do not have to, because they think their coworkers, neighbours, or anyone around them is their friend instead of curating a strong circle.

Put your loved ones first.

The Royal Family is supposed to put their family first – even though they are being punished or casted out from the Royal grounds and household. They still have access to them and know where to find them. There is only a limitation set once that bond is broken, so do not break things in the first place or, if you are past this point, make amends with your loved ones.

People are way too easy to misunderstand and it is so effortless to write them off. Patience is key with loved ones whether they are your relatives or friends you choose to be family. It is interesting that our husband or wife is a chosen partner, but we should put them first before anyone else. 

Do not take yourself too seriously.

Since you are already a high value individual, of status or not, you can be at ease in every situation. A smile worn during hardship demonstrates fortitude that no crown or title could ever convey. When you help others find lightness amid darkness, you display emotional intelligence, resilience, and profound social awareness. 

Your struggles do not exist in isolation—everyone carries burdens—and this shared human experience offers countless opportunities to draw strength from one another.

Your inherent worth grants you permission to move through life without tension or pretense. True nobility reveals itself in genuine celebration of others’ triumphs, finding joy in their achievements as readily as your own.

Self-awareness becomes your greatest asset. Understanding your capabilities and areas for growth allows you to navigate social landscapes with authentic confidence. You remain grounded while others experience their seasons of triumph and trial, offering steady presence without losing yourself in their storms or celebrations.

This social attunement to those around you marks authentic sophistication. You cope gracefully. You lift others while maintaining your foundation. You grow alongside your circle rather than at their expense or in spite of them.

Poof. Now you are an inspiration. 

When you respect yourself, others feel this. Various individuals might have completely different reactions to you setting these boundaries and standards. 

Bullies and those who feel personally attacked will only have an archive of hate comments. 

The ones who admire you for it and/or live similarly will respect you as well. Essentially, other Royals recognise this and surround themselves with other Royals. There are so many unwritten or unspoken rules that might not be cemented in someone’s mind, but they immediately recognise when others live by the same laws.

A sovereign life awaits those who choose dignity over convenience. These principles transform ordinary moments into extraordinary legacies worth passing down through generations.

Your birthright has nothing to do with bloodlines or bank accounts. Character determines nobility. Actions reveal true aristocracy. The crown you wear exists in how you treat strangers, navigate adversity, maintain composure during chaos.

Each morning presents fresh opportunities to embody excellence. Every interaction becomes a chance to demonstrate refinement. Small choices compound into magnificent transformations that ripple outward, touching lives you may never witness directly.

Others will notice something different about you—an inexplicable magnetism, an effortless authority, a quiet confidence that needs no announcement. They cannot quite name what sets you apart, yet they feel drawn to your presence like subjects to their sovereign.

This path demands nothing from your wallet. It requires everything from your spirit. Consistency matters more than perfection. Progress trumps instant results. The journey itself becomes the destination when you commit fully.

Remember

1. Always be polite with a smile.
2. Regulate your emotions.
3. Dress elegantly and appropriately.
4. Carry yourself with grace.
5. Educate yourself.
6. Remember everyone’s names.
7. Never complain, criticise, or correct.
8. Keep your traditions alive.
9. Date with intention. 
10. Go on amazing adventures.
11. Use your best things.
12. Spend time with whom you respect.
13. Put your loved ones first.
14. Do not take yourself too seriously.

You were never meant to settle for mediocrity or accept less than you deserve. Greatness flows naturally when you align behavior with elevated standards. Rise to meet your highest potential.

Claim your throne. The empire you build starts within, radiates outward, endures eternally. All the rest will follow when you live with such an ingrained purpose. You lift others up when you work on small habits to create the entire package that make you who you are. 

Long live the King. 👑 

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