How to create your own luck and surround yourself with lucky people

Luck is preparedness meeting opportunity. 

In other words, people create their own luck.

A life-changing realisation I had was that I knew a lot of lucky people. However, they are not the only ones.

Ever since I was a kid, I thought of myself as extremely lucky. 

I won countless raffles, won thousands my first time putting everything on black in Vegas, and finding myself constantly in spaces where I had opportunities to get ahead. 

I have used them to my advantage and still do with astute thinking without the manipulation. 

Showing up as your glowing excited self will attract your dreams as long as you let everyone know your intentions. 

Here is how to create your own luck. 

Know what you want. 

A lot of people do not know what they want. They are skating by hoping something good will happen, but do not have any goals even if they are short term in the moment ones. 

Headed to a party? 

You probably want to rub elbows with someone who will change your life with funny stories and opportunities to meet other cool people. Or invite you to more glamorous parties and events. 

Or you want to find the love of your life and this is the only way you know how to go about it. You might only end up walking out that night with a disappointing fling you regret later in the week. 

If you’re at a party, it’s possible you are looking to specifically meet a person, have a good time, or simply gain attention. Steer yourself in the right direction by focusing on what’s important in that moment. 

Spending time with your loved ones? You have a cute outfit you want to show off and create lasting memories for your family scrapbook? Or do you want to meet someone who will open doors for your career? 

When I go out with others, I am probably focusing on these people for a reason. 

Usually it is to experience new things, dress up for content, see how my friends are doing, or all of the above. 

Put yourself in the right places.

If you want a luxurious lifestyle, there is probably a reason. 

You feel safer in a nicer neighbourhood where people care about their community. You desire a shining, clean environment everywhere you go. You prefer top level service that makes everyone feel comfortable and have convenience. 

Surround yourself with simple decisions by smartly choosing what suits you and your needs. This way, you do not have to go far worrying about obstacles you do not want. 

I live in a cheaper neighbourhood surrounded by cultures, luxury apartments, and designer stores. 

Never in my life had I thought a place like this would exist. This is definitely a metropolis notion. 

If you want to live in a nice era, get the cheapest apartment in an upscale building and make it your own. You can upgrade along the way as your career does. 

If you want to meet more healthy people who think similarly, go to the nicer markets with options that make your body feel good and get a membership at an elite gym. 

You are more likely to find what you want in the places that align. You do not walk into a shoe store expecting bags. It makes no sense. 

Create goals for every part of your life. 

You probably are itching to grow in one area more than another. 

Make life seamless by diminishing what you don’t need to focus on and it will help streamline your focus in that one department. 

If you want to focus on being more social, it might call for responding faster to friends and having outfits and glam ready at all times.

This might make other tasks as organising your home, assembling outfits, and meal prepping feel like a chore. Create systems to make these easier and exciting to do them so you are always ready to focus on living your life to the fullest.

In this situation, this can mean hiring a cleaner, finding a glamorous uniform for easy outfit combinations, and keeping your phone charge. 

If you want to focus on your work, this might look like tidying your desk, arranging your work bag, and managing emails at a certain time of day daily.

If you want to focus on health, managing time to create a menu, ordering a delivery food service, or shopping for cute workout gear.  

Everything is easy when you drown out the noise and focus by finding your weaknesses.

Find your most put together friends.

Do you have people around you who are where you want to be?

It could be that one auntie or big sister type who always has a glamorous outfit put together and dependably puts you in a good mood with the things she says. 

Other times, it can be that guy who has a thriving business, beautiful wife he spoils, and gorgeous baby. He takes trips with his family and friends with a crazy story when he invites you out for dinner. 

These are all different versions of truly successful people. 

Notice what they do, moves they make day to day, and all the things you like about them. Take inspiration from their strengths and create your own. 

Example: My best friend and I have the same taste in nice things, but we have completely different styles. We will walk into the same store and buy ‘matching bags’ even though they are completely different. It also makes us closer, because she just gets it. 

Have you ever taken advice from someone whose life was in shambles? Make it make sense. It never will. 

Make it a point to overlap your lives as much as possible.

See these people as much as you can to trade stories, create memories, and live life together. It does not have to be calling them everyday, but every other day to check in and see how they are doing. 

Everybody has things to do and that is okay. 

Sometimes it might not line up, so keep growing your circle.

You can never have too many friends. My friend had a wedding come up and had to uninvite 400 people, because they realised each side had too many people they care about. They changed it to immediate family only, because they had too much success!

I love that problem. However, I do not wish I had that problem. 

Gifts are still going to be sent even if they ask for none, because I love love and celebrating it. So do all the people who are happy for them. 

When you show up for others, you want to show up for yourself. 

You are the only person who can advocate for yourself, but the right people will accelerate the introductions and invitations. Now all you have to do is show up. Since your energy is so incredible, the cycle repeats itself organically. 

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