How to become a muse: Follow your dreams not a person

Hello, Gorgeous! 

During a conversation about our dreams, someone close to me saw me weighing the options of having to choose.

As a woman, you either start a family early enough to focus on a career with tons of support backing you or you do it after you build your career. I always thought I would be the aforementioned.

Actually, I thought I would be a housewife with a set of capable extracurricular skills. 

Amidst a wonderful marriage, we did not have this discussion early though the events unfolded naturally. After the union formally concluded, I had nothing to fall back on. This is what my parents had warned me about.

I made the mistake of making another person my only dream instead of not realising many. 

I cannot tell you what to do with your life as I was lucky enough to grow with someone who let me make mistakes alongside him. However, I will say I look back wishing I chose a different path and met a husband later. 

This is only me and my opinion as I had the wrong mindset for my goals at the time. 

My dream career is one that helps me shape a loving family with more options. 

I have never declared to have a dream career before because I never had one. 

It took me a decade to find out who I want to be and experiment in a handful of various fields to find my strengths and weaknesses.

Do I ever love a challenge though? I found my passion in recent years only to realise that this was something that flowed through my veins from my ancestors. I want to make them proud and let this career reveal itself as I have hinted on it in vlogs a few times before. Heavily. 

You will find out in due time as I am currently working my buns to the bone to pull off this feat. Everything is doable. 

‘You should follow your dreams,’ he said.

He would not only support me but also my vision for a long term brighter horizon. There are many moments I could potentially fall in love with this man who does not want to trap me or simply say no without offering alternatives. 

Left and right on dates, I find men who want to provide a life of domesticity which is inherently beautiful. But I have deep fears of this bait, because I would feel empty not knowing what I am capable of. 

There is no greater regret than not doing the things you wanted to do. 

Being a badass pays off. 

A part of the internet that scares me is where the girls manifest without working on their mind. Capitalising on physicality in every sense of the word is a part of enjoying our health and living life to the fullest. 

Athletes need to retire. OnlyFans creators eventually want families with children who may or may not be so thrilled about their mother’s career. With beauty comes freak accidents even before age. An injury can change your trajectory forever.

Your brain is something that no one can take away. Exercise the expansion of your evolution. Enriching your skills and proficiencies. Education is something that never ends. 

They will come if they are along for the ride. 

You choose the people in your life and have the aptitude to walk away from them. In other words, you are the curator for the ultimate list of possibilities. 

The day another person chooses you it becomes easier to focus. Instead of putting someone else’s needs in the forefront of your objectives, be the person he can build his life with first. As in alongside. Adjacent. Interdependent and integrated organically.

No one should build their life around their partner but with balance. Give your all to everything you do and make sure to decide who you are first. Start off as a muse. 

Never be on the sidelines of someone else’s story but make your own with theirs intertwined.

A muse is not created by being chosen. She becomes unforgettable by choosing herself first.

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