My moodboard looks nothing like my life: How to bring your dream life to reality

Hello, Gorgeous.

You want to be beautiful, seen, fabulous, buying your version of luxury, and doing glamorous things. It is possible you created a delusional (in a good way — we love dreamers here!) version of your dream life that is non-negotiable. However, the disconnect from your reality compared to your vision has a bit more distance than you would like. Here is how to make that disjunction connect.

There was this weird point in my life a few months ago where my moodboard looked nothing like my real life. I ended up designing two different moodboards to achieve my goals, but they were so disengaged from each other that I was wondering how to link them.

1. Make a list of all the things and people in your life that make you feel fabulous and actually see them everyday.

This could be perfume, upmarket makeup you love to use, certain pieces in your wardrobe, and even using one curated space in your home that makes you feel like a million bucks. Now, I want you to add places to that list. Events. People. Friends you adore and acquaintances you would like to get to know better.

Bring those items and individuals to the forefront of your everyday life. 

You know when you are all dressed up with nowhere to go? This will never happen again, first of all. Secondly, when others ask you this, you simply answer, ‘I have a date with life.’ Everyday is an occasion, so start acting like it. 

Do an everything shower, full glam, and outfits daily. This should be in the 10 commandments of living an elegant life. 

Sometimes when I am home by myself, I will wear cute pajamas or loungewear with black tie event worthy jewels and my newest pair of stilettos. Yes, it sounds crazy. But it really does change your mood when you see yourself in a different light. 

Practise living this way. Use all your gorgeous things you save for specific affairs and people you occasionally see to be on your pinned people in your iMessages. I used to never use my teapot, because it seemed so precious or never used to put my bag on particular surfaces, because I was so afraid to live life fully without scratches. 

Love what you have and make the most of your time with it while you can. 

This means stop wasting time waiting for other people to join you to go to pop-ups, places you have been waiting to see and try just because you are fearful of showing up for yourself alone. Yes, it is nicer to share these special moments with others, but that is why you keep inviting fabulous people in your little black book. Keep inviting until they cannot say no anymore.

2. Upgrade your everyday essentials.

There are a handful of implements I use every single day without fail. Since I am utilising these tools nonstop, they have a tendency to fall apart over time and I want them to last longer. If I am really lucky, I hope they last a lifetime. 

Currently, I have a list of upgrades that I am saving for that will absolutely change my life, because I had them before and I am tired of my items breaking.

My everyday essentials wishlist: 

1. Writing instrument
2. Keyring
3. Raincoat
4. Heeled boots
5. Hat 
6. Timepiece
7. Work bag
8. A small cooking pan 
9. Sofa cushions and throw blankets 
10. Bath robe 

Not having these items are creating a hole in my life. Not because I desire these gadgets purely for status and shopping, but because I have a small source of stress from my lack of them existing in my life. Or existing in its presently poor condition. 

Another example would be when you are out in the rain and you do not have a brolly. You never think you need one in Los Angeles, but when you need it you are absolutely flustered with forgetting it at home or in your car. Do not go without. You do not need the stress. 

This is not to sell you on items that are new and force you to spend money on replacing your entire life with what a woman on the internet says. This is why I said in the first step to bring forth in your mind all the things you find fabulous in your life that you already own. 

You can pay attention to what you have with better forethought in future of what to purchase mindfully when replacing it, so you never feel ill-equipped. A polished woman is always prepared. 

3. Document what you are doing everyday in real life to live your dream life. 

During the most fabulous eras of my different glamorous phases, the times I was doing my best was when I was the most disciplined in remembering to take a selfie. This was literally all it took. So simple. 

It is a visual queue prompting me of what I am capable of accomplishing. 

When I had a marvellous outfit on, I would take a mirror selfie or 5 second video, put my phone on a tripod with a magsafe mount so it’s easier and more convenient, or an octobuddy. Make sure you curate a life of the least friction so it does not stop you from taking selfies. I know this sounds narcissistic, but it is not especially when you are working towards a goal and keeping a record of your progress.

Add a new album to your phone with your progress. Seeing the before and after does something to your brain that makes you want to stick with being consistent. Showing up as your best becomes easier, because you know you have done it day by day. You also do not want to lose your streak when seeing your wins so steadily.

Your visual queue does not necessarily have to be a selfie if style and self care in this method is not your goal. You can take photos of any project you are working on, weather it is food, getting organised, or home decor. Find multiple themes in your life that you love working on and record them in video or photo format. Make the style of shooting uniform for each photo or video and you will generate your own aesthetic. 

You are manufacturing your own style, your own vision and moodboard into reality by creatively extending yourself. It is not enough to simply write down thoughts in your journal. You have to scrapbook your life with visual queues that are your style. Your brand. When I look at them, it is instantly recognisable that it is you. 

Over time, your visual identity might slightly alter, but that is not going to stop you. It will actually inspire you to create more, be more, and do better each time. 

Welcome to the new you.

Your moodboard exists as a blueprint, not fantasy. The gap between aspiration and actuality shrinks when you decide to inhabbecause waiting for permission wastes precious moments. Every choice to elevate the mundane into magnificence builds momentum.

Start now. Not tomorrow. Not when circumstances align perfectly. This second.

Pull out that lipstick reserved for special occasions. Wear the earrings collecting dust in their box. Book the reservation you have been postponing. Invite someone new into your world. Take the photograph documenting this commitment to yourself.

The woman you envision already lives within you. She simply needs you to stop rehearsing for a future performance. She wants to debut today, in this unglamorous Tuesday afternoon, while running errands in the rain.

Living elegantly demands intentionality, not wealth. It requires showing up fully present, adorned in your finest, treating ordinary hours as sacred. When you honour yourself this way consistently, others notice. Opportunities appear. Doors open.

Stop separating dream from reality. Merge them through deliberate action, gorgeous presentation, mindful curation. Your extraordinary existence begins the moment you claim it.

Now go be fabulous.

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