How to be a woman he would go to war for 

Hello, Gorgeous!

I told my sweetheart to break up with me the day I wear jeans. To divorce me if we are that far in the relationship. It is a sign I have given up. 

He laughed and loved when I proceeded with

I will always be 6pm diamonds on. 

Disclaimer: Nothing is wrong with jeans. They are fabulous when styled properly. This is simply my personal preference to avoid uncomfortable fabrics that overheat you. Denim stinks immediately when you leave your home smelling of the outside world. 

They are appropriate for working outside or farming. Even as a farmer, I wore wool and twill.

Taking care of yourself is a form of taking care of him.

You are his status symbol after all. His pride and joy. 

No matter how accomplished you are or how successful he is, people will always remember how lovely you were. Inside and out with the clever quips you deploy, sassy yet polite opinions, and fire you inspire in others. 

A woman who respects herself first gains the respect of others almost instantly. You have to be careful to not let him put you on a pedestal at times but he flicks off any dust that dare falls on your mantel. 

As It Girls, we spend a fortune on being our best.

It is a monumental responsibility to be fabulous. 

Taking formal classes continuing our education or making time to learn topics in depth online. 

Sitting on items we added to cart for months that improve our presence or life’s conveniences. 

Weeks and months of tailoring every aspect of our clothing or recipes for our health. 

Finding a good gym, being an excellent girlfriend to our fellow ladies. My calendar is yours, darling. 

Filling our beautiful planners with developed handwriting that can be admired by strangers who visit, we do not take the obligation lightly as we master well roundedness. Even if we do rotate neglecting and conquering a variable commitment each week.

You look put together all the time for a reason. Because you are.

A woman once told me, ‘You have to look expensive.’ No.

I wholeheartedly disagree. 

As a matter of fact, this thought was absolutely disgusting to me and a gateway to thoughts that are conflicting in my soul. 

You have to be expensive. In thought, time, and effort. 

Appearance is not everything when you build yourself starting from within. This is not an empty entitlement to say you deserve the best life when someone else comes along, but because you already do these things for yourself. 

You can wear rags and be seen as glory in a Hessian sack, because of who you are and what you stand for. Though you choose not to don such shreds. You are your routine organising each detail with your mind and spirit with eternal care. 

Do not break your neck for such surface level attention. 

A lot of women declare men should take you to nice dinners as a first impression not knowing if he even likes you. The truth is, he does not even know your taste and is barely meeting you for the first time.

Do not use people. See how they act in a simpler setting before he sees your Miss Universe walk. See each other as poor to observe if it is meant to be when you are both rich. You will love each other a thousand times more. 

Why should anyone else provide you a lifestyle immediately when you are not certain you will feel comfortable with each other? It makes no sense. Those tastes can be built or discovered once learning the person.

In addition, a lavish time out is much better with a man who would have the honour to go to war for you. 

What exactly do they supplement you? 

In proximity, we have immediate access to all the finest things alone. 

We work so hard to build ourselves in our career, business, or occupation we take great pride in cultivating. Women are highly successful these days everywhere we turn. 

Loving a man who does not text back is worthless when you can love a job that gives security, options, and freedom to do things with the ones we love. After he makes you frustrated, what do you have to turn back to that makes you feel fulfilled? That is the question. 

Your skills, routine, and working towards accomplishing great achievements on your own as an individual is what will save you. It is what will make you and build more for eventually–a great coupling. 

During this day and age, what gentlemen have to offer is how they treat you. 

How they think of you. How they dream. And making you a priority as you would theirs. Because everything you touch already turns to gold. You know for a fact that this relationship is already successful if you make the time. 

It is a conscious decision to choose each other as focus. 

Do not change the things he loves about you. 

The reason he is falling over himself is because of the things you did in the beginning. 

You put your best foot forward, so this will never change. It might look different in future as lifestyles, locations, and/or professions move forward. But only slightly. 

You are still the stilettos you put on even though he has your slippers on his person or arms ready to carry you. He sits a little straighter when you walk in the room to make sure you see him in a favourable light because your presence is radiant even when standing barefoot. 

Always be Amal before and after George. Let love complement your life but never define it.

He wants you to have more.

In his eyes, you will never have enough. There is no such thing. 

The stars in the sky are his to offer, because you gave him the world simply standing next to him. 

You don’t need all these things,

is something a poor man says who is not willing to make the effort to rise to your idle state of being. These are not romantic edicts but an attack on your existing way of life.

For all he knows, he will be certain to ask if you have more luggage on a trip. This is not material. You are not materialistic. He simply wants to sustain the beauty, comfort, and softness you offer in a hard world. 

Being a man is difficult enough and you remind him there is an alternative. 

If I am ever in trouble in person or in text, I will say, ‘DENIM!’

Different styles of jeans means how deep the level of trouble.

Levi’s! = creepy person alert  

501 straight cuts! = getting scary 

Frayed cutoffs = terrible danger 

Become the woman impossible to replace. 

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